Why My Boyfriend Gets Hard When We Cuddle? You must like to cuddle a lot when something happens at the office or you had a bad day or something or the other and you want to go home just rest and drink with your boyfriend and tell him what happened.
He is comforting you, you both are cuddling, you are feeling better and good and you are feeling relaxed.
And then suddenly you realize that he is turned on, you get a little bit frustrated because you are not in a mood you just want to cuddle.
And you must be thinking why is he getting turned on by just cuddling you didn’t even do anything which will make him hard.
So sometimes you have sex with him because you feel like he wants and sometimes you ignore it because you are not in a mood.
And you feel like if you talk about it, he might feel embarrassed or he might not feel good, so you just ignore that topic.
I will tell you why men get hard while cuddling. It’s also called cuddle boner and I will tell you how you can talk to them about this situation.
I am going to tell you the top 10 reasons why your boyfriend gets hard while cuddling.
And I am going to tell you some tips also on how your boyfriend will not get hard while cuddling.
And I am going to answer some questions which have been asked frequently, it might clear your doubts if you have more.
Here are 5 reasons why your boyfriend gets hard while cuddling.
- He gets turned on at that time
- Maybe the way you are laying on him makes him hard
- Maybe it’s his first time cuddling
- He is a sex addict
- It depends upon how many clothes you are wearing at that time
1. He gets turned on at that time
So when you are cuddling with your boyfriend, just laying watching something or anything and you suddenly feel something.
At that time you know he is getting turned on, you can feel he is getting hard.
So it’s normal for men to get hard while cuddling or even sometimes hugging.
So if you both are cuddling and you can feel he is getting hard, sometimes they are turned on but you will understand at that time and sometimes it’s normal for them to get turned on at that time.
If it happens almost all the time then just try to talk to him or try to ignore it
Or try something else.
Or maybe when you both are cuddling the way you are moving, spooning or adjusting maybe that is what makes him hard.
So if you talk about it with him and he says that your moving makes him hard then try to do something else which is comfortable for him and you both.
2. Maybe the way you are laying on him makes him hard
Position matters, position changes everything in sex it matters, while hugging also matters and cuddling position also matters.
So while cuddling if you both are in bed and lying then because of the position he will be turned on.
Or if you are sitting on him and moving this will also make him hard.
So it depends upon how you are cuddling the position that matters.
So I’ll tell you which position will be helpful in which he will not get hard.
3. Maybe it’s his first time cuddling
So, for example, there was this guy he used to date but he never had this connection with anyone else but then he found this girl he likes a lot they both went on a date but a sudden change in the plan they both ended up in her house.
He met her family and his pet then they planned to watch a movie so while watching the movie they were cuddling. It was his first, he was cuddling for the first time.
And cuddling is the most intimate thing. In this, we make a deep connection, and we feel relaxed. In this, we don’t have to talk to make a connection, without talking we make the connection.
So it was his first time cuddling with someone else, and he got a boner. He felt embarrassed he didn’t say anything.
So maybe your boyfriend is cuddling for the first time that’s why he is getting turned on.
So if it is happening then keep a pillow that will be helpful.
If a man gets a boner while cuddling it doesn’t always mean that he wants to have sex.
4. He is a sex addict
Some men are sex addicts they want to have sex if they are turned on or something they cannot control their urge.
If they don’t get to have sex with you they will find someone else but they will do anything to have sex.
So whenever you both are cuddling and he gets hard and every time you both have sex.
And if you are cuddling after sex then again he wants to have sex then that is one of the signs.
You will notice his change in behaviour at the time of sex and whenever you both are having sex he is not satisfying you, it’s only him who is getting satisfied.
So this is some sign if you talk to him and if he tries to blame you instead of talking calmly then there is another sign.
5. It depends upon how many clothes you are wearing at that time
So sometimes it depends upon your clothes also, if you are wearing fewer clothes he will get tempted while cuddling.
And if you both are lying and cuddling and wearing fewer clothes he might get tempted or he will have the urge to have sex.
And if he is tempted you will know in his behaviour that he is turned on.
As I said before men will get a boner. It’s natural for them, just a small touch will also give them a boner so it’s not always necessary that if he is getting a boner he wants to get intimate.
So if you don’t want him to get hard then try wearing something else, and if you feel comfortable in that clothes while sleeping then try to change the position or something.
Now I am going to tell you some tips on how your boyfriend will not get hard while cuddling, to not ruin the cosy cuddling sesh.
You are not in the mood for sex you just want to snuggle with your boyfriend but surprise-surprise here comes the boner in a cuddling sesh.
Sometimes you can ignore it but when you are stressed from work and in the mood just to snuggle at that time you cannot ignore it, and you wished that you knew some ways on how your boyfriend will not get hard in a cuddling session.
So here I am for your help,
Here I am going to give you some tips on how your boyfriend will not get a hard-on in a cuddling sesh:
- Choose a position which is a no penis position.
- Try cuddling on the couch instead of a bed
- Find some distractions which will avoid him from getting a boner.
- Use signals
1. Choose a position which is a no penis position.
If you are cuddling in a position where there is a touch of a penis there are chances that your boyfriend will get a Boner, so to avoid that you can use some of these positions.
- Reverse spoon
- Your head in his lap
- The butt positioned cheek to cheek(Zen style)
- Sweetheart cradle
- The pursuit
- Leg hug
- Butt pillow
So these are some positions you can try to avoid getting him a boner, it will be good for both of you.
And because of that, you can also try some new cuddling positions.
2. Try cuddling on the couch instead of a bed
If you want to avoid getting his hard-on then cuddling on a couch is the best idea.
Because if you are in bed while cuddling there are chances that, if your boyfriend is turned on then you might end up having sex even though if you didn’t want to have the sex you did end up having sex.
So if you are cuddling on the couch then you can avoid having sex, because it’s a public place living area, so you can avoid it.
3. Find some distractions which will avoid him from getting a boner
So in a cuddling session if you don’t want him to get a boner then try some distraction.
Which will distract him from getting turned on, and you can find some interesting topic or something else to talk to him about.
He will get distracted and he will forget about being intimate, his mind will be on the topic which you are talking about.
If you want to distract him from getting a boner then don’t talk about anything, intimate or sexual he might get turned on by that so try to avoid that topic.
But if you want him to get a boner because you are turned on then you can talk about it, you can find some topic or anything which will make your relationship Interesting or if you want to spice up your relationship then you can try that.
4. Use signals
So for avoiding getting a boner you and your boyfriend both should first talk about how you are feeling whenever he is getting a boner while cuddling.
Because at that time you just want to relax and you want to be stress-free at that time.
So first have a talk with your boyfriend about this situation and make him understand and don’t make him feel embarrassed about this situation because he also cannot do anything about this situation, sometimes it happens naturally even in a just touch.
So after talking make some signals which will distract him.
And this will be helpful for both of you, so whenever he is getting a boner use that signal so that he will get distracted and his hard-on will not be there.
I have explained why your boyfriend gets hard while cuddling and I have even given you some tips on how you can stop that surprising boner in a cuddling sesh.
Now I am going to answer some questions which have been asked frequently.
This question might clear your doubt also if you will get or have.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
In conclusion, men getting hard is normal for them, and men having random erections is also normal.
Men like to cuddle a lot compare to women.
If your boyfriend is getting hard while cuddling every time then talk to him about how he is feeling at that time, whether is he turned on at that time or he is getting hard but not turned on.
But don’t make him feel embarrassed it will hurt him, he will get uncomfortable next time and he will get anxiety or he will get nervous at that time.
So while talking you should be careful how you talk to him, you should consider his feelings also.
I have mentioned some different positions also which will help both if you for him not getting hard on at that time.